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Telka's Life Solutions Workbook, Change your thoughts, heal your life

Change Your Thoughts. Heal Your Life
An Eleven
Week
Self-Help Workbook
Transform wounds into wisdom,
pain into purpose
and inspire others to do the same


What we think determines what happens to us,
so if we want to change our lives,
we need to stretch our minds.

Wayne Dyer 

Change Your Thoughts, Heal Your Life:
 written by Telka Arend-Ritter L.M.S.W.
consists of an 11-week guided program
for creating and maintaining a healthy,
healed  life through the use of
improved coping skills,
cognitive reframing,
and solution-focused
problem solving.  
This workbook may be used
personally and professionally:

*
As a self help tool for personal, spiritual and psychological growth
*As a therapeutic tool for the elimination of
self defeating behaviors 
*As a cognitive behavioral, solution-focused treatment guide for
depression, anxiety, anger, addictions
* As an instructional guide to enhance insight,
cooperation and communication

Table of Contents

Week #1 Beginning Life Changes  
Pages 1-30

  • Overview, Workbook BasicsStages of Emotional Healing: Boo-Boo Theory
  • Creating the Best Results
  • Stress Management: Stress Prevention Test
  •  Body Mass Index
  • DSM IV Substance Abuse Inventory
  •  Circle of Life Meditation
  • Homework


Week #2 Stressful Relationships 
Pages 31-45

  •  Stressful Relationships Overview
  •  Relationship Stress Thought Inventory
  •  Range of Human Response
  • Unhealthy vs. Healthy Responsibility
  • Thoughts Leading to Right Action Thinking
  • Rules for Being Human (Cherie Carter-Scott)
  •  Homework


Week #3 Understanding Moods  
Pages 46-63

  • Coping with Depression and Anxiety:
  • Understanding Moods Overview
  • Definitions: Depression & Anxiety
  • Stages of Anxiety Mood Disorder
  • PTSD Checklist
  • Mood Chart
  • What Is Causing All Of The Anxiety?
  •  Coping Strategies for Mood Related Problems
  • Use of Medication
  • Homework


Week #4 Healing Anger 
Pages 64-79

  • Nail in the fence
  • Anger Overview
  • Why do you get so angry?
  • Anger Onion
  • Transforming Anger into Insight
  • Stages for Healing Anger
  •  Anger Response Mood Chart
  • Checklist for Hidden Anger
  • Anger Prevention Solutions
  • 10 Solutions for Healing Anger
  •  Homework


Week #5 Coping WITHOUT Bad Habits.
Pages 80-100

  • Coping without Bad Habits Overview
  • Healing Stressful Thinking
  • Range of Self-talk
  • Self-Defeating Thought and Behavior Inventory
  •  Cognitive Reframing: A Self-talk Tool
  • Choosing the Power of Thoughts
  • Practice: Self-Healing
  •  Healthy Coping Skills Worksheet: Coping Without SDBs
  • Emotionally Healing Self-Talk Review Worksheet
  • Self-Talk Meditation
  • Homework


Week #6 Healing Relationships 
Recognizing and Maintaining Healthy Relationships.
Pages 101-123

  • Healing Relationships Overview
  • Healthy Relationship Inventory
  • FAQ’s
  • Healthy Dating Inventory
  • Relationship Pyramid
  • Balancing Relationships
  • Establishing Healthy Trust
  •  Building Healthy Relationships
  • Strategies for Identifying the Ideal Partner
  • Relationships: When to Stay,
  • When to Walk Away,
  • When to RUN.
  • Borderline Personality Disorder
  •  Homework

Week #7 Healing Worry and Fear.
Pages 124-142


  • Healing Worry and Fear Overview
  • What Are You Worried About?
  • Working Through Worry and Fear
  • Feeling Stuck in Worry and Fear
  • 7 Solutions for Healing Worry, Stagnation, Procrastination and Fear
  • Worry Focused Thinking vs. Wisdom Focused Thinking
  • Transforming Worry into Action
  • Transforming “Should” into “Could”
  • Choices
  •  Change is a Choice Worksheet
  • Shirley’s Story
  •  Homework


Week #8 Living With Stress
Pages 143-160

  • The Parable of the Starfish
  • Living with Stress Overview
  • Crisis: Problem Plus Opportunity
  • Stress Prevention Re-test
  • Stress Response Choices
  • Healthy vs. Unhealthy Stress
  • Healthy vs. Unhealthy Stress Worksheet
  • Cognitive Dissonance Theory
  • Six Common Emotional Healing Lessons
  • Rebecca’s Bath
  • Homework



Week #9 Why do I think that I am not enough?
Pages 161-180

  • The Golden Eagle (Anthony de Mello)
  • Why Do I Think I Am Not Enough Overview
  • Real Self vs. Ideal Self
  •  Self-Esteem Vocabulary
  • Self-Esteem Myth
  • Maternal vs. Paternal Love
  • 7 Tools to Heal Self-Esteem Through Thought and Action:
  • Tool #1 Human Doing vs. Human Being
  • Tool #2 Identifying Thoughts and Actions that Sabotage Self-Esteem
  • Tool #3 Body Image Test
  • Tool #4 As if..
  • Tool #5 Character building
  • Tool #6 Self–Talk Ladder
  • Tool #7 Redefining the Problem
  • Letting Go: Our Greatest Fear
  •  Homework


Week #10 Dealing with Difficult People
(More anger management)
Pages 181-210

  •  The House of 1000 Mirrors (Japanese Folktale)
  • Dealing with Difficult People Overview
  • Who Are Your Difficult People?
  •  Are You A Difficult Person?
  • Difficult People As Teachers
  •  Difficult People Lesson Inventory
  • Difficult People Projection Tool
  • 16 Assertive Communication Guidelines
  • 12 Fair Fighting Rules
  •  Are You A Bully?
  • Tools to Assert Yourself
  • Reframing Communication
  •  Assertive Response to Substance Abuse
  • Letting Go
  • Homework


Week #11 Letting go
Putting the past behind.
Pages 211-231

  • Zen Story
  •  Letting Go Overview
  • Kubler-Ross Stages Applied to Emotional Healing
  •  10 Tools for Putting the Past Behind You
  • Letting Go Meditation Tool
  • To Let Go Takes Love (author unknown)
  • Taking Care of Yourself Tools
  • Relapse Prevention Plans
  • Aftercare Plans
  • Closure Exercise


Community Resource Guide

Pages 232-242
12 steps of AA
Recommended Readings & Bibliography



*Telka's Life Solutions 11-week Solution Focused, Cognitive Behavioral
Therapy program has been helping, changing,
and healing lives for 15 years.

Now, for the first time, the program is written 
into a  250 page spiral bound
self-help workbook available for purchase
without attending a group or seminar.

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or
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